Try Tree Pose & Other Simple Tricks To Find Patience this Summer Holidays

🌿 Wildflower Notes​
​Use tree pose to cultivate a little patience, discover more about your nervous system (and how it's different) and what can help you regulate... and quickly.

Hi Reader,

I hope you’re having a good week! With the summer holidays in full swing, I've got to admit: my children have officially taken over my time, brain, and all hopes of organising the "messy drawers" in the house before school comes round again. Why do I always think I can manage these things?! But anyway, just wanted to pop in and remind you: I'M WITH YOU. I know it's a full-on few weeks, but hey, there's no school run, am I right?

So, if you’ve got a minute (or perhaps this can count as your mini breather!), here are a few quick thoughts and practices that have been helping me manage the summer madness and hopefully, they’ll help you stay regulated too.

What I’m Practicing

Tree Pose (for patience and focus)

Tree pose isn’t just about balancing physically; it’s about balancing your energy and your mind. When everything’s happening at once, it’s easy to get frustrated. But patience isn’t just a “nice to have” - it’s a tool for us to use when we need to find patience, especially when you’re balancing ADHD and the demands of the summer holidays.

Take a breath, grow tall, and find your balance. You can do Tree Pose anywhere - lounge, outside, even standing in the kitchen before you start on that next round of meal or snack requests...

A tip for you: If Tree Pose feels tricky (especially with children around!), try practicing it for just a few seconds while you’re waiting for something. It’s an instant reset.

What I’m Reflecting On
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​The Power of a Regulated Nervous System (especially when you’re being constantly interrupted)

It’s no secret that ADHD brains like ours struggle with regulation. Our nervous systems can swing from high (hyperarousal) to low (hypoarousal) at a moment’s notice, which makes it difficult to access the 'window of tolerance' - our optimal zone for calm focus. This is why self-regulation becomes so important, but also so tricky for us. The good news? It is possible to train your brain to find balance, but it’s going to take practice and patience (yes, more patience!).

Tip for you: Next time you feel that frustration rise, try grounding yourself physically - whether it’s standing tall, feeling your feet on the ground, or just breathing deeply. Your body knows how to calm itself. Just pause and listen to it.

What’ Can Help Right Now

• Quick breath resets: Take 3 deep breaths in between tasks - this little practice is a great circuit-breaker and brings instant calm.
• Unstructured playtime: Letting the kids enjoy time without structure actually helps me too because when I can let go of the 'must-do all the things' mentality, everyone feels freer.
• A mindful coffee break: 5 minutes of sitting with a coffee, no distractions, to reset before tackling the next thing. Try to slow down the race.
• 30 minutes of creative time: Carve out and protect fiercely at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted time each day to do something that fills you up - whether it’s writing, yoga, or simply thinking about new ideas.
• Ask yourself: What do I need to feel regulated right now? A deep breath? A walk outside? A few minutes of silence? Listen to your body and do as it asks.

What I’m Letting Go Of

The need for everything to have structure and be planned out. It’s my natural instinct to try and control everything, but the reality is, some of the best moments don’t come from perfect plans, they come from being present in the moment. So this summer, I’m embracing a bit more chaos and allowing things to unfold as they do. Playdates that go on too late, meals that are simple and quick, and allowing for unplanned fun.

A Wildflower Reminder

You don’t need to do it all.
You just need to stay connected to yourself - your energy, your light, and your rhythms.

This week, try to embrace the unplanned moments. Let yourself be messy, spontaneous, and imperfect. The wild beauty of life is in those moments between the ‘shoulds’ and ‘must-dos’. 🌸

Big smiles,
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Caroline